Dr. Oneal's Favorites

Looking for something to help you Own What Matters?

Here is a list of products & resources that I use & recommend to clients all the time.


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Must-Haves to Spice Up Your Bedroom Play

Equus Wave— by Liberator

Hit the best positions for YOUR hot spots while also supporting your body (great for weak knees, back, etc.).

This product is perfect as a discrete addition to your bedroom for those with kids at home.


As a mother of twins, I tried A LOT of pelvic floor trainers. The KegelMaster2000 is by far the best.

Magic Wand Massager with Shibari Variable Speed Controller

The Magic Wand has stood the test of time and technology for good reason!

I like THIS particular version because a plugin will never let you down and will last at least 10 years even under heavy use. This vibe comes with a variable speed controller and you'll love the chance to find what works for you without having to scroll through pre-set vibe patterns.

TOP Waterproof Blanket

Brought to you by the founders of The Sexy Lifestyle, this waterproof blanket is your best friend when it comes to easy cleanup after messy sex!

I own three because one is generally in the laundry. They come in different sizes, colors, are durable, and easy to clean. Sex is more carefree and fun with you're ready for the mess!

Wedge— by Liberator

This is a must-have for all levels of skill and proclivities... and will help your skills, your back, your knees, your endurance, and your reputation for being a lover that knows how to hit the right spots.

Überlube Luxury Lubricant

This is a lube that "plays well with others." If you're using condoms, playing back-door games, or using toys this is a chemically clean lube that can go the distance!

There are three different products! Sometimes I like a smaller, more discrete size of lube for my play bag and this hits the mark! They know how to roll and also sell refills.

Don Wand Bent Graduate Glass Pleasure Wand

Sitting semi-reclined with a toy that has a curve to it really gives you the opportunity to find the 5 hot spots you're looking for! Glass is inexpensive, non-toxic, and can be sanitized in the dishwasher if that's of interest to you.

Sexual Nirvana

The object of the game is to achieve Sexual Nirvana by building a sexual fantasy consisting of 12 consecutively numbered cards. With hundreds of combinations possible, Sexual Nirvana offers an exciting and ever-changing sexual experience.

Majestic Pure Fractionated Coconut Oil

Coconut oil is fantastic and inexpensive lube. I love it because it is chemically clean, you can ingest it, absorb it through your skin, it is anti-fungal and inexpensive. This brand is smooth and even comes with a convenient and quick-access pump top.

I keep a few containers for convenience ;o)

Icicles No 8

This glass massager will leave you breathless! Elegant, upscale, and hand-crafted with amazing attention to detail.

Super Chamois

This is a portable, inexpensive, and highly effective solution to wet sex. They're lightweight but can handle 2L of fluid! I use them for travel because they are lightweight and quick to rinse and dry out so you're ready for your second round of fun on the same day.

Sex is more carefree and fun with you're ready for the mess!

The Penis Book

A Doctor's Complete Guide to the Penis—From Size to Function and Everything in Between

Conscious Cock

The Empowered Sexuality Manual for Men: Healthy Masculinity, Sex Education & Communication Tools


The Empowered Woman's Guide to Pleasuring a Man

Come As You Are

The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life


Your Brain on Sex

How Smarter Sex Can Change Your Life

Sexual Intelligence

What We Really Want From Sex and How to Get it

Complex PTSD

From Surviving to Thriving: A Guide and Map for Recovering from Childhood Trauma

The Conscious Sexual Self Workbook

Answer the questions of who you are and what you believe is true for you about sex


Relationship Agreements

A simple and effective guide for strengthening communication, reducing conflict, and increasing intimacy to design your ideal relationship

Eight Things I Wish I'd Known About Polyamory Before I Tried It and Frakked It Up

Rookie mistakes that cause drama and harm— and how to avoid them

The Smart Girl's Guide to Polyamory

Everything You Need to Know About Open Relationships, Non-Monogamy, and Alternative Love

Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Even After

Breaking up or divorcing with dignity and respect and saving each other the drama of a high-conflict divorce

Index of Favorite Reads

Favorite Vendors

Sex Furniture