Dr. Oneal's Favorites

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Here is a list of products & resources that I use & recommend to clients all the time.


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Must-Haves to Spice Up Your Bedroom Play

Equus Wave— by Liberator

Hit the best positions for YOUR hot spots while also supporting your body (great for weak knees, back, etc.).

This product is perfect as a discrete addition to your bedroom for those with kids at home.


As a mother of twins, I tried A LOT of pelvic floor trainers. The KegelMaster2000 is by far the best.

Magic Wand Massager with Shibari Variable Speed Controller

The Magic Wand has stood the test of time and technology for good reason!

I like THIS particular version because a plugin will never let you down and will last at least 10 years even under heavy use. This vibe comes with a variable speed controller and you'll love the chance to find what works for you without having to scroll through pre-set vibe patterns.

TOP Waterproof Blanket

Brought to you by the founders of The Sexy Lifestyle, this waterproof blanket is your best friend when it comes to easy cleanup after messy sex!

I own three because one is generally in the laundry. They come in different sizes, colors, are durable, and easy to clean. Sex is more carefree and fun with you're ready for the mess!

Wedge— by Liberator

This is a must-have for all levels of skill and proclivities... and will help your skills, your back, your knees, your endurance, and your reputation for being a lover that knows how to hit the right spots.

Überlube Luxury Lubricant

This is a lube that "plays well with others." If you're using condoms, playing back-door games, or using toys this is a chemically clean lube that can go the distance!

There are three different products! Sometimes I like a smaller, more discrete size of lube for my play bag and this hits the mark! They know how to roll and also sell refills.

Don Wand Bent Graduate Glass Pleasure Wand

Sitting semi-reclined with a toy that has a curve to it really gives you the opportunity to find the 5 hot spots you're looking for! Glass is inexpensive, non-toxic, and can be sanitized in the dishwasher if that's of interest to you.

The Bedroom Game

This game is action-packed and great for couples wanting to explore their hidden desires and fun fantasies. From seductive foreplay to sexual positions, your sexy time will always be new and exciting.

Majestic Pure Fractionated Coconut Oil

Coconut oil is fantastic and inexpensive lube. I love it because it is chemically clean, you can ingest it, absorb it through your skin, it is anti-fungal and inexpensive. This brand is smooth and even comes with a convenient and quick-access pump top.

I keep a few containers for convenience ;o)

Icicles No 8

This glass massager will leave you breathless! Elegant, upscale, and hand-crafted with amazing attention to detail.

Super Chamois

This is a portable, inexpensive, and highly effective solution to wet sex. They're lightweight but can handle 2L of fluid! I use them for travel because they are lightweight and quick to rinse and dry out so you're ready for your second round of fun on the same day.

Sex is more carefree and fun with you're ready for the mess!

The Penis Book

A Doctor's Complete Guide to the Penis—From Size to Function and Everything in Between

Conscious Cock

The Empowered Sexuality Manual for Men: Healthy Masculinity, Sex Education & Communication Tools

Sex for One

The classic guide to fully enjoying the pleasures of self-love; full of warmth, intelligence, and informative line drawings—from renowned sex educator, Betty Dodson.

Come As You Are

The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life


Your Brain on Sex

How Smarter Sex Can Change Your Life

Sexual Intelligence

What We Really Want From Sex and How to Get it

Complex PTSD

From Surviving to Thriving: A Guide and Map for Recovering from Childhood Trauma

The Conscious Sexual Self Workbook

Answer the questions of who you are and what you believe is true for you about sex


Relationship Agreements

A simple and effective guide for strengthening communication, reducing conflict, and increasing intimacy to design your ideal relationship

Eight Things I Wish I'd Known About Polyamory Before I Tried It and Frakked It Up

Rookie mistakes that cause drama and harm— and how to avoid them

The Smart Girl's Guide to Polyamory

Everything You Need to Know About Open Relationships, Non-Monogamy, and Alternative Love

Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Even After

Breaking up or divorcing with dignity and respect and saving each other the drama of a high-conflict divorce

Favorite Vendors, Educators, & Communities

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Sex Furniture

Liberator transforms ordinary bedrooms into supportive landscapes for intimacy by presenting angles, elevations, curves, and motion that help people of all sizes & mobility find satisfying ways to connect with their partners.

With a wide range of furniture and toys, Liberator has something to spark everyone's interest!

Uberlube is a pure, premium lubricant, uniquely designed to transfer sensation while reducing friction. Long-lasting performance that lets skin feel skin. Made with clean and condom-friendly ingredients, Uberlube dissipates when no longer needed—no sticky residue!

Ublerlube is a top-tier lube, recommended by leading doctors (including Dr. Cari Oneal!)

Local? Coming to visit?

Based in the Salt Lake City, UT area, Risque Soiree is one of my top recommended safe and supportive sex-positive communities. They host educational and erotic events both virtually and in person.

Index of Favorite Reads